How To Get Inspired SUPER-FAST in 5 Easy Ways.

My very first print article I’ve ever written came out in Faerie Magazine TODAY (pssst…..secret 15% discount code is: dangerdiary).

Truth: I haven’t bought a copy of a real live magazine since Jack White was on the cover of Rolling Stone and before that I can’t even remember how long.

I forgot what a source of inspiration holding something in your hands can be! I got lost in the otherworldly photos of midsummer garden parties, enchanting handmade houses, castles and Little Red Riding Hood photo shoots.

It’s only Tuesday – so we can all use some inspiration to kick ass this week.

Here’s some quick tips to get you all re-charged and get that imagination flowing!

I like to:

1. Pretend I’m a Secret Spy.

I hunt for gems in random public conversations.
Okay, okay…. I eavesdrop…don’t judge.
I go to my local coffee shop armed with my notebook and a pen. I get inspired by watching other people and making up imagined lives for them in my notebook. Or – I’ll listen in to a conversation and pick out one sentence and use that as the start of a story.

2. Play Dress-Up.

At the local flea market, I scored a vintage purple falling apart gown with black lace for 20 bucks that looks like Snow White Gone Goth. I paired with my white flower crown and hit the Hudson Project festival last weekend. Just being in this dark faerie tale dress inspired me and made me feel like I was creating my own faerie tale as I danced in the mud. Also, rocking out some wigs on occasion makes me feel like I’m someone else for a moment…and that’s kind of cool.
When I’m other people:


3. Hit the Record Store.

Trust me on this one. Hit your local indie record store. Run your fingers through some fine ass albums of bands you may or may not have ever heard before - marvel at the artwork, the photos and the song titles. This is a huge source of visual, writing and fashion inspiration for me.

4. Hang Out with Inspiring Partners-In-Crime.

Kim Boekbinder is one of my favorite people on this earth. We’ve lived together, played together, secretly carried ugly faux wood paneling to the garbage together at 3 in the morning (don’t even ask) and while I was naked covered in body paint on a trash bag in our living room, she covered me in baby oil to help scrub it off – only 48 hours after meeting me.

One of the things I love about her (beside her artistic body oil rubdowns obviously), is that she makes her wild dreams into realities. She lives for her art, pulls genius moves to make it happen and achieves the impossible time and time again…. maybe that’s why she’s “The Impossible Girl”.

Her thinking-out-of-the-box saved me from a nervous breakdown three days to the end of our Kickstarter for Revolver. She inspires me to believe that dreams can come true and she’s got the hustle, the talent and the brain to make it happen.


5. Get Lost.

Shut off the iPhone.
Rip up your maps.
Go out and Wander.
Uncover whole new worlds.

I asked you on Twitter and here’s what some of you said:

@Kristi_Klein said: “I get inspired by listening to music. Something with a big soaring sound and pounding bass drum always gets my mind flowing.”

@whiterabbitdays said: “By watching my dog, Patch. Her wild strength, freedom and unconditional love.”

also: “By being aware. Noticing detail. A dew drop, a spiderweb….everything can be inspiring if you are still and mindful.”

@gizzylovett said: “Sometimes, even by something simple like being on a swing with closed eyes, just surrounded by wind and feeling free.”

@joha_89 said: “My inspiration is LOVE.”

@EmilyJackCO said: “Music and reading. And working out in the gym – pushing myself further than I thought I could go…is a new level!”

@4OClockOphelia said: “I feel inspired with candles lit, the right music, the rain dripping down on the window and a hot cup of tea.”

@sweetindeed said: “Through music. Everything I do has a soundtrack:)”

How do you get inspired to do something or create something new?  Share in the comments!

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Magic Monday: A Wild One Card Tarot Reading From Me To You = ADVENTURE, BLACK BEARS and a NEW SONG!

Speaking of adventure…as I’m typing this post on my porch…..
Twin baby black bears just walked right in front of me to play!!!!!!!!!! This happened seconds ago!

Yeah. That happened.

Back to our regular broadcasting:
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My tarot cards are wrapped in antique lace, there are dirt smudges on them that will never come out from all the times I’ve brought them to the forest with me to read them, and they carry the enchanting scent of wild orange oil.

Danger Addicts, may I give you a reading this morning?
A one-card truth?

Yesterday, I woke up to the sunshine streaming in my room and the tarot cards under my pillow.
My hands reached for the antique lace and my bare feet walked down the wooden stairs of Curiosa.
I opened up the hobbit door and all the sunshine flooded in.

I shuffled for all of us on my favorite spot on the porch while the birds sang their song and the dragonflies laid down in the sun.
And this is what the cards revealed for you:
One of my favorite cards of the deck.
For those of you who join me in the Parlour sometimes, this has been a card that comes up often.
For those of you who are super brand new to tarot, let me give you a reading…..

The fool is all about new beginnings, throwing yourself into adventure without thinking of the consequences or obstacles.
It is that innocence that you have from childhood, that belief that you can do anything you want, and the mindset of having never been told no before.
This card says:
You are PURE potential.

Your Tarot Assignment for this week – if you choose to take it:

Is about throwing yourself into adventure…trying something new…..having fun with that childlike abandon and the feeling that nothing can possibly stand in your way.

Adventure is around you….even in places that you might not expect.
What does your heart want you to do? Listen to it and take a chance.

I did this:

The other night, inspired by jamming with Maggie Maggots, I started making up a song and lyrics by the fireplace.
Burke was headed up to bed and asked me what the last song I was playing with the lyrics “Take Me With You….”
It was just a song I made up.
He wanted me to play it again – and I couldn’t really remember all the made up words – but I knew the music I had written and melody.
It was basically a song about falling in love with a green haired mermaid and having to decide between living without her or being with her and drowning.
Burke sat next to me and came up with the “through the atmosphere”, “to a new frontier” “underneath the sea….as long as its you and me” parts…
and we had fun with it.

Then I pulled on my vegan Docs for an adventure and got them muddy hiking up Overlook Mountain with my friends.
After a 3 mile trek up steep uphill – this was my reward:

The abandoned creepy hotel as the sun sets….

Being there always makes me feel like a like kid.
My imagination running wild.

Last time I was there, I stuck my hand up the fireplace that goes nowhere and there was a secret box with charms and notes in it that people left behind.
I took off my thrift store necklace and added it to the collection, wrote a note and put it back in its spot.
It wasn’t there anymore…
it’s hidden somewhere new I suppose.

What wild adventures await you this week?
How can you let your imagination play and come up with new things?
How can you let that child-like side of you really rock out this week?

Tell me in the comments what you commit to doing!
Let’s all stage dive into this gorgeous week together.
Happy Magic Monday.

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2 Reasons You MUST Hurl Yourself Into Adventure featuring a Song With Me And Maggie Maggots!

Jack White’s voice sang out in my room as my alarm went off this morning.
I looked on my phone and saw this, the second my eyes opened:
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And we knew what we needed to do.

Maggie traveled by plane and then by bus to the mountain.
We’ve had a lot of adventures together since we met in 2008, traveling the world with our friend, Emilie Autumn.

Last night, among fireflies and under the moon…
Maggie had her haunting glockenspiel
I had my guitar
and our voices cut into the dark night
rising and falling
like spirits weaving through air.

An iPhone heard it all, remembered it, captured it….
on this moon mountain mystery night.

If you were there with us -
this is what you would have heard:

We call ourselves Mirror Sisters.

And because of that tweet this morning – we thought:

We have to put it out there. Fuck it.

Just share it.

I have a question….
if you have a dream….
if you are fucking around creatively and having fun…..
what are the reasons you don’t put it out there?

I know my top two:

Number 1: Being judged negatively by others.
Number 2: Fear that it’s not good enough.

Right now, Maggie and I are sitting on the porch writing lyrics. We’re gonna play together on this perfect day and let ourselves just do it.

I told her what I was sharing with you and she said:
“When you’re a kid you don’t think about it. You just put it out there. When you’re an adult you have an expectation of what you have to do and who you have to be. It stunts the creative process.”

Then she said:

“There is no destination in creativity. It’s not that I get to this place and then I’m done.”

So we continue an adventure…

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SURVEY: Can Someone on the Internet, that You’ve Never Met, Have a Profound Effect On Your Life?

Four years ago, I found him because I googled “pillow forts”.
He made one on an airplane.
He posted this photo:

I got caught in his blog for an hour.
His name is Burning Dan.

I looked up his pictures and his videos of fire spinning and thought…
“I really want to learn that.”
I started taking classes in fire. I got my first poi.
I would go to his blog for inspiration, for his kind words and to tap into his wild sense of adventure.

Five weeks after my first poi class…

Burning Dan died suddenly.

I read about his passing and started to cry uncontrollably.
I was devastated by the loss of this person.

I never did comment on anything he had written.
He had no idea I even existed.
And yet, watching him and his life encouraged me to take chances, embrace adventure, do the unexpected and learn fire.

And now I would never get to thank him.
It seemed wrong.

Four years have passed.
I can spin fire.
Now, I’m learning guitar and sometimes get frustrated at my beginner status -
and out of nowhere,
just yesterday,
I had the thought to check his old blog.

And this was Burning Dan’s advice to beginners:

It was exactly what I needed to hear.
Right now in this moment.
Burning Dan, 4 years after his passing, came through for me again.

And reading what he wrote from 4 years ago, made me want to share with you one of my favorite pieces that I’ve ever written in which I had mentioned him….

and you.

Yes, YOU.

I wonder where in the world you are.
I wonder if we’ve ever spoken. I wonder if we know each other really well or if we’re just passing ships in the night on the sea of cyberspace.
I am a girl who is deeply touched by human connection and the mysteries of nature and I’m not afraid to get emotional about it.

This is what runs through my mind this early in the morning…the marvel of our connections with each other.
Can I write words here that will make you feel less alone in the world that you can read at all hours in the morning as I type them?
Can you inspire me to change my life for the better through a few words in your blog or through sharing a positive or impactful experience you had?

My answer is yes.

It made me realize what a connection that we can have to each other here. ….We can share so much and change the world for the better by the good things that we put out there.

Through watching Burning Dan’s videos and reading his positive message, I was inspired to learn something scary and new – and I am grateful for that. I wish I would have gotten the chance to give him a hug and thank him, or to write him a letter and let him know what a positive effect he had on my life.
But sadly, I can’t.
So I’m writing it here to share with you.
I’m writing it here to put out there into the universe.
Thank you, Dan.

Four years ago, in my favorite blog post, I had written a story about fireflies.

In June and July out here in the mountains – they light up the sky with their symphony – talking to each other – blinking signals in the night. The females stay on the ground mostly and the males fly around using light code to talk with the females.
I can sit out for hours watching them light up the dark forest.
They are, and have always been, otherworldly to me.

By September, they are completely gone and I miss them.
It isn’t the same night sky without them.

But that year, I saw a dull glow in the grass.
I thought my eyes were playing tricks on me because it was September, but I got down on the ground and put my face inches away from the glow….and there she was…..the last firefly of that year.
Burke and I laid down on the grass watching the glow go on and off, very dimly.

Suddenly, I felt the tears running down my face. Here she was. All alone. The last of her kind for the year. The other fireflies of that Summer were long gone and here she was blinking a soft glow into a dark night.

It just made all of these thoughts rush through my head.
It made me think of all of the times in my life where I felt like I was communicating and not being heard, or when I felt alone or misunderstood.
Because we’ve all felt that, haven’t we?
We can all understand that occasional feeling of being hopelessly alone even when we’re surrounded by a billion people.
But here was this creature….who was truly alone….who was the last of her kind. Blinking softly – awaiting some response in the night.

It made me emotional because I wish I could have blinked back.
I wish I could have let this creature know how much it meant to me.
I wish I could have let it know that that simple beauty of their communication in Summer nights is always one of my best and magical memories every year.
I wish I could have communicated that my life has been enhanced by the very existence of fireflies.
But I couldn’t communicate that. I could only sit there and watch its dim glow attempting to reach out to others long gone.

Then something beautiful happened:
A little bit away, another one blinked softly. There was one other left. And this relief washed over me that this wasn’t the last firefly. That it wasn’t alone.
The whole experience really struck me.
I feel like that when I hear other people’s life experiences or when I read blogs of others.
I feel like we put our lights out there.
We share our emotions and what we are thinking and our daily experiences.
And like my case with Burning Dan, even if I never reached out to him, I saw his light.
And his light made me want to glow brighter and reach higher as a person.

We can have that effect on each other.
Be kind. Put good things out there. Know that you’re not alone and through all the highs and lows of this beautiful life – we are all fighting the good fight together.

And I’m over here just a little bit away -
softly glowing in the dark night.

Has someone affected you on the internet that you’ve never met in person?
Has your life been changed in a positive way that someone has put out there on the internet – through blogs or videos?
Please share your experience here, and if you appreciate this post….
kindly share or RT with others.

I leave you with a touching tribute to Burning Dan – who 4 years after his passing is still affecting me and others to burn brightly.

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My Slightly NSFW Weekend in 3 Videos: Burlesque, Rock and Roll and YAY!

I taught myself Nine Inch Nails “The Only Time” on acoustic guitar on my front porch and then I played for you:

I dropped by the Slipper Room and did my Morticia – Addams Family act which the brilliant Joe Watson filmed:

I spun wildly with partner-in-crime, Burke Heffner at the 3-Day Hudson Project Festival – site of the last Woodstock. It was pretty incredible. If you were with me, this is what it would be like:

I’m challenging myself to do more videos and put them out there.
I know I love watching your videos – because it always makes me feel like I know you better.
Hope you enjoyed this “slice of life” of my wild world this weekend.

How was your weekend, Danger Addicts?
Do you Vlog? Do you have a YouTube channel? Tell me. Share. I wanna watch you, too!
OR just make a quick vid and say hi to all of us and add in the comments.

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True Story: I Travelled 3,500 Miles To Live My Burlesque Dream.

She travelled all the way from Scotland
on 2 planes and then 4 trains to meet me at a tiny coffee shop
in Brooklyn.
She had never been to New York City before.
She knows no one in this city of 32 million people
except for me.

She came here to make her dream come true.

Backstage at The Slipper Room.

Backstage at The Slipper Room.

As I type this she is sitting next to me…
and our wild 24 hours together of
costume getting,
false eyelash wearing,
99 cent store raiding,
and a late burlesque New York City night…
is almost over.

Reegan made her New York City debut as Viola le Feu last night
and brought the Slipper Room to its knees.
As I watched her from the side of the stage,
I got tears in my eyes
because fear kept me back from so many things for so long.
I know that we lose so many people’s dreams in the world to fear and doubt.
Viola pushed through and confidently threw herself into it.

When fear loses and dreams conquer
it is a goddamn good day.

Here are 3 tips from Viola herself on how to rock out your dreams and slay all obstacles:

1. Don’t Hold Back. Be The Person You Want To Be.

As we’re sitting here having breakfast, Viola described herself as being “quite shy” and “super conscious” of how other people judged her or looked at her before meeting her burlesque mentor in Scotland, Magenta Lust. Viola appreciates Magenta’s bold choices – in her own unique style, how she expresses herself and her style of burlesque. Viola took the leap and busted out of her shell when she had the thought:

“Why should I be sitting here admiring others? Why don’t I just do it myself?”

2. Don’t Give a Shit About What Other People Think.

Moments before she took the stage, I was giving her last words of encouragement and she said,
“I’m doing this for me….not for anyone else.”

She explained that she’s never going to see these people again, and why should she care what they think.
With that attitude of not trying to please other people or care what they think -
she was able to go out there and perform from her heart
and truly her.
And it was fucking magnificent.

3. Whatever’s Going To Happen is Going To Happen – So Just Enjoy The Moment, Have Fun.

Looking back at the experience, Viola says,
“If I was so wound up in myself and freaked out or chickened out – I’d have to live with that for the rest of my life.
I don’t want to live with regret.
I want to DO IT.”

After the show, we went out to celebrate,
and made wishes for the future on the Empire State Building at 2am…
and blew it out…
This photo was taken moments before the Empire State Building’s lights went out.
Viola le Feu was Queen of New York in my eyes last night.
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And this powerful, kickass, blonde from Scotland who sits next to me
is my hero this morning…
because she had the courage
to rock out one of her dreams
and made it happen.

And I wish that courage and strength and love
to every single one of you.

Wild love from both of us.
We can all do this together.

Now go out and kick ass today.
And “like” Viola le Feu on facebook – to keep up with her adventures and encourage her journey.

And let us know in the comments how we can help and support you and your dream.

Ask yourself what’s holding you back from your dream.
How can we help support you to slay the fear and push ahead to the life of your dreams?

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80 of the Best Books EVER and Great Summer Reads For The Freaks

Books are my drug of choice.
The worlds that I’ve found within them
have saved my life and my heart.

When my house burned to the ground and I was lost,
I went to the local coffee shop and grabbed a dog-eared copy of
Anne Rice’s Interview with a Vampire
from the shelf and escaped with Lestat.
For a few hours, I forgot about all that I lost.

Books have numbed my pain.
They have made me feel more than I’ve felt in real life sometimes.

This just appeared in town and I’m psyched.
Storytellers are my rockstars.

Here is a list of my favorite books:

1. Lolita by Vladmir Nabokov. (adult)
2. The Master and Margarita by Mikhail Bulgakov.
3. Breakfast of Champions by Kurt Vonnegut.
4. On The Road by Jack Kerouac.
5. American Gods by Neil Gaiman.
6. Night Circus by Erin Morgenstern.
7. I Know Why The Caged Bird Sings by Maya Angelou.
8. Charlotte’s Web by E.B. White.
9. The Lord of The Rings Trilogy by J.R.R. Tolkien.
10. Their Eyes Were Watching God by Zora Neale Hurston.
11. The Vampire Chronicles by Anne Rice.
12. Still Life with Woodpecker by Tom Robbins.
13. One Hundred Years of Solitude by Gabriel Garcia Marquez.
14. A Tree Grows in Brooklyn by Betty Smith.
15. The Stand by Stephen King.
16. Charlie and the Chocolate Factory by Roald Dahl.
17. Women Who Run With the Wolves by Clarissa Pinkola Estes, Ph.D.
18. The Road by Cormac McCarthy.
19. Geek Love by Katherine Dunn.
20. The Red Tent by Anita Diamant.
21. Where The Wild Things Are by Maurice Sendak.
22. The Complete Tales and Poems of Edgar Allen Poe.
23. The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho.
24. The Claiming of Sleeping Beauty by Anne Rice (Adult).
25. She’s Come Undone by Wally Lamb.
26. Just Kids by Patti Smith.
27. The Lion, The Witch and The Wardrobe by C.S. Lewis.
28. The Book Thief by Markus Zusak.
29. Job: A Comedy of Justice by Robert A. Heinlein
30. High Fidelity by Nick Hornsby.
31. The Secret Lives of Bees by Sue Monk Kidd.
32. The Electric Kool Aid Acid Test by Tom Wolfe.
33. To Kill a Mockingbird by Harper Lee.
34. Like Water for Chocolate by Laura Esquivel.
35. Please Kill Me: The Uncensored Oral History of Punk by Legs McNeil and Gillian McCain.
36. Here is New York by E.B. White.
37. Naked Lunch by William S. Burroughs.
38. Crooked Little Vein by Warren Ellis.

I wandered into my favorite bookstore, The Golden Notebook and met poet and author, Gretchen Primack.
She has this awesome literary tattoo that is a Kurt Vonnegut quote.
She is also the author of Doris’ Red Spaces, Kind and The Lucky Ones. Check them out and support this awesome author!
She suggested the below books to me and I left with a brand new copy of The Panopticon (which I read with a clip light under the stars and surrounded by fireflies on my front porch last night).

39. The Panopticon by Jenni Fagan.
40. Where’d You Go, Bernadette by Maria Semple.
41. My Abandonment by Peter Rock.
42. Fools by Joan Silber.
43. David Copperfield by Charles Dickens.
44. Vegan with a Vengence: 150 Cheap, Animal-Free Recipes That Rock by Isa Chandra Moskowitz

Burke Heffner, my darling husband and co-conspirator recommends:

45. The Stranger by Albert Camus.
46. 1984 by George Orwell.
47. Brave New World by Aldous Huxley.
48. Fahrenheit 451 by Ray Bradbury.
49. The Little Prince by Antoine de Saint-Exupery
50. Endurance: Shackleton’s Incredible Voyage by Alfred Lansing
51. The Wonderful Wizard of OZ collection by L. Frank Baum

One of my best friends, Mr. Jeff Stark – art star and of the Nonsense NYC list and underground experience fame recommends:

52. Lost Illusions by Honore de Balzac.
53. A Moveable Feast by Ernest Hemmingway
54. Slouching Towards Bethlehem by Joan Didion.

Jo Weldon, Burlesque Icon and Head Mistress of the New York School of Burlesque and Author of The Burlesque Handbook loves:

55. The Last Unicorn by Peter S. Beagle
56. The Great Gatsby by F. Scott Fitzgerald.
57. Morning in the Burned House by Margaret Atwood.
58. 100 Collected Poems by e.e. cummings.
59. Loose Women by Sandra Cisneros.

Contessa Create, Theatrical Performer, Aerialist, Plant Whisperer and Queen of Comedy recommends:

60. Jitterbug Perfume by Tom Robbins.
61. Cannibal Kiss by Daniel Odier.

Aubrey Franchell, our traveling partner for Revolver, friend and editor recommends:

62. Grapes of Wrath by John Steinbeck.
63. Glass Bead Game by Hermann Hesse.
64. Reflections of Loko Miwa by Lilas Desquiron.
65. Night by Elie Wiesel.

Alise Marie, lovely co-conspirator, Vegan Vixen and sultry chef recommends:

66. Delta of Venus by Anais Nin (Adult)
67. Paris Spleen by Charles Baudelaire
68. The Immoralist by André Gide

Friends of mine who have written kick ass books and who I highly recommend are:

69. The Burlesque Handbook by Jo Weldon.
70. Parades, Parties, and Protests: Creative Resistance Culture by Sarah Sparkles.
71. The Asylum for Wayward Victorian Girls by Emilie Autumn.
72. The Year of Yes by Maria Dahvana Headley.
73. A Man Called Destruction: The Life and Music of Alex Chilton by Holly George-Warren.
74. Sacred Seduction by Kitty Cavalier.
75. Blood and Pudding by Katelan Foisy.
76. Week in Hell: Art Book by Molly Crabapple.
77. The Esbat Sequence by Tara Lindsey.
78. Mermaid: A Twist on the Classic Tale by Carolyn Turgeon.
79. Handbook for Hot Witches: Dame Darcy’s Illustrated Guide to Magic, Love, and Creativity by Dame Darcy.
80. Unspeakable Things by Laurie Penny. (Pre-Order this awesomeness)


My friend, Laurie Penny, put this up today with the hashtag #selfieswithbooks.
I challenge you to put one up on instagram, facebook or twitter with the hashtag so I can see it!

AND speaking of writing,
if you wanna read a new article of mine out in glossy and GORGEOUS print,
check out the Summer 2014 edition of Faerie Magazine.
One of the most beautifully done magazines I’ve ever seen and I’m honored to be in it.
AND get 15% OFF ANYTHING on the Faerie Magazine site, just by putting in code: dangerdiary.
Share with your friends and help support a kickass indie magazine.

Have you written a book? Please share in comments!
What are your favorites?
Find a bunch of awesome suggestions from my Facebook Friends, too!

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