How To Not Die While Going After Your Biggest Dream: 5 Easy Tips!

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1. You Aren’t Done Until You’re Dead.
For the last 2 months, I’ve been in my own personal Lord of The Rings journey.
Hear me out:

  • If Frodo and Sam left the Shire and walked to Mordor getting tans and drinking margaritas, nobody would give a fuck about their story. And while I’m sure they would have had a great time, their victory wouldn’t be as big either.
  • But instead, Frodo and Sam have to deal with dragons flying at them, giant spiders attacking them, monsters running at them with battle axes and a naked bald hunched over slimy guy trying to steal their shit.

They keep pushing through ALL of this.
Even though they think they might die at any moment.
Even when it seems too big and too crazy to continue.
But all those obstacles and all those true tests make the victory even sweeter.

When you think you can’t go anymore,
when you think you are going to lay down in the middle of the road and wait for it to be over,
drag yourself up and keep going.
You can handle it.
As long as there is still breath in your body and the bastards haven’t killed you yet,
you are winning.

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2.  Find Your Allies.
One thing I discovered out on the road is that the majority of people out there in the world have had some kind of wild dream.
When you come across these people and you’re in the middle of trying to figure out your wild dream…it sparks something in them, and they will be kickass allies in helping your journey.
We found Allies in every town we found ourselves in.
We did that really scary thing every single day:
We asked.
We talked to complete strangers and told them what we needed and what we were looking for.
We got rides, awesome locations, free coffee and donuts, hugs, homemade dinners, and a borrowed sedan from a Mayor’s office (you can’t make this up).
There’s too many things to even list all the sweet things that people did.
And we were grateful for every single one.
Without our Allies – people that were previously strangers the day before, who became our friends and rescuers…we would have been screwed.
Shout out to Team Revolver and Team Revolver Graphic Design (Michelle and Shawna).
To all of you who are reading this, and you know who you are, we are allies for life, and any wild dream you need… I’ve got a car, a spare bed and a warm meal for you any day of the week.

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3. Fuel Up By Being Inspired By Others Doing Their Dream.
Remember this: You are not on this path alone.
There are other crazy motherfuckers out there that are also going for their biggest dreams.
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again:
Every person you look up to – every hero you have had…
has travelled this road you are on right now.

There would be moments waking up in dingy motels or moments I’d feel lost and I couldn’t push forward anymore where I would grab my phone, throw in my earbuds, and listen to friends like Kim Boekbinder, Jaye Bartell, Emilie Autumn and Kai Altair, to just escape for a moment and know that all of them are out there right now on the path to their dreams. I would read inspiring blogs and thought provoking articles by my friends like Gala Darling and Molly Crabapple to name a few.
You are not alone. Keep repeating it.
Hurl your body into the wild unknown of your dream knowing that others are right there with you.

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4.  Still Look For The Stars Even When You Are Lying In The Gutter.
Rock that attitude of gratitude.
One of my favorite quotes of all time is from Oscar Wilde:
“We are all in the gutter, but some of us are looking at the stars.”
Even in the scariest and worst moments
look up to one thing that you can hold on to…
just one positive thing.
And I promise more will come.
You can always just roll around with me in the gutter with me for a little while – I’m always there.

5. When You Have Been Beaten Down and Turned Over Sideways By Your Dream, Refer to Rule #1.

Never give up, motherfuckers.
We’ve got this.
Sending you all my love with 2 broken toes and battle scars from my dreams.
If you think someone in your world could use this today, please share.

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Your Inner Rockstar – How To Be Your Most Badass Self

This morning,
sitting on in my little kitchen garden in NYC,
I pulled a card for you and for this post:

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The Magician came up.

The message I’m supposed to give you is:

You have EVERYTHING you need in front of you.

♥  Wanna channel that inner rock star version of you?
♥  Wanna draw in that swagger and confidence to do anything?
♥  Wanna get an idea of who you are and where you want to go and grab life by the reigns?

How can you achieve superhero status?

It’s easy….
You can’t.
None of us can.
Superheroes are myths.
Our inner rockstars are in for a wild and real life ride – happily rolling in the gutters one day with their friends and hurling a television out of the window the next.
You ever seen a Behind the Music and all the stuff they talk about?
Sure there’s “superhero” moments, but in the end, we are all on the same roller coaster together.

This shit is real.
And it’s not perfect, it ain’t always pretty –
but we wouldn’t trade it for anything.

How do we channel that inner rock star more in life?

Things You Need to Know:

  No One’s Got It Figured Out.

No one.
At 16, I had my absolute rock star and riot grrl heroes that I believed had “figured it all out”.
I felt like this loser that had no idea what I was doing.
I believed that I could never be them or get to where they were in life because I had too much doubt and fear.

Well – come to find out in interviews later on – they were struggling with the same doubts and fears I was. Reading about their honest feelings made me respect them more as people AND made me see that we all deal with the same insecurities in life.
We are all in the same boat.

Don’t let fear silence you.

Fuck Intimidation. Get Down With Some Inspiration.

One of my favorite moments at the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame Induction this year was from David Grohl who said:

“Don’t look at the poster on your wall and think ‘I could never do that.’ Look at the poster on your wall and think ‘I’m gonna fucking do that!'” You look up to your heroes and you shouldn’t be intimidated by them, you should be inspired by them.”

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Bikini Kill – one of my biggest inspirations.

All Great Things Start Small

Our own wild expectations of who we are and what we would should be doing can be terrifying. Let’s stop setting ourselves up to fail. Give yourself a realistic simple goals.

How simple is this: What is one small thing you can do towards your goal today?

Rock an Original….Your OWN Badass Self.

Don’t get caught up in the trap of comparing yourself to others. We all have our own “Choose Your Own Adventure” life story going on.

The best way to channel your inner rockstar is to do it YOUR way. Crank up your own version of you and watch the things start to feel better.

Judy Garland once famously said: “Always be a first rate version of yourself and not a second rate version of someone else.”

What are your best traits, the things you like about yourself, the things that make you – you?

What are the things you’d mention if you had to brag a little?

Now imagine who you’d be if you boosted those traits just a little more.   Just a little.  I’m not talking about imagining some completely different version of you, some impossible fantasy. Just see who you could be with a little extra boost of the best parts of you.

Stage Dive Into The Things You Love

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Photo Credit: Soul Catcher Studio

What are your favorite things to do? Remember the “What’s in your blood?” question from three weeks ago…? Well how do you apply that to your regular life?

How often do you do this thing?

Can you make steps to do this thing more and more?

Challenge Yourself: If you’re recording a song once every 6 months, can you challenge yourself to do 3 songs in 6 months?

This blog you’re reading right now came from a challenge to myself to write regularly for 7 months – and that was almost a year and a half ago! I love it, so I made it part of my life.

Keep building on the things you love.

Fuck Giving Up

Yep. If you love it and you want it – Do. Not. Give. Up.

Dreams don’t die.
They may go to sleep for awhile, they might take way longer than you want them to. But they don’t die, unless you say they do.

Trust me on this one. My dream of creating the movie Revolver started 10 long years ago. There were things I didn’t know how to do and things I got scared of. I stopped moving forward at times because everything seemed “too overwhelming”. Finally we decided to hurl ourselves back into this dream and with your help, we were able to get the funds to shoot this year!

Don’t ever give up.
As long as you are alive – your possibilities are endless.

Share the answers to these questions in the comments. Let’s cheer wildly for each other as we stage dive.

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